I have a good friend. Lara is gay and she has Lyme. And she needs to come out of the closet and tell her new partner about her Lyme & Chronic illness.
‘Coming out’ can be challenging, emotional and create a lot of anxiety.
Ultimately, there is a lot of FEAR associated with it. By definition, fear is ‘an unpleasant emotion caused by the threat of danger, pain, or harm’. The threat is often that of perceived rejection, lack of support or understanding from the person you are going to ‘come out too’.
Together, Lara and I have come up with 4 ways you can ease your way out of the closet.
4 ways you can ease your way out of the 'Lyme' closet
1. Choose LOVE over fear. Knowing that you are lovable even though you are unwell is the number one way you can ease your way out of the closet. Self-love is very powerful and will help you to overpower any fears you may have regarding self-doubt.
2. Manage your own energy. Any relationship, especially new ones, can place demands on you that are socially, emotionally and sexually demanding of your energy. Be sure to take stock of your own energy levels and try to keep them balance with as much self-care as you can.
3. Go with honesty as the best policy. Tell your story with pride and self-compassion. Explain what your partner can expect, how they can help you and how you can work together to achieve a healthy relationship that supports each other’s needs.
4. Check in with one another. Set a reminder, be it weekly, fortnightly, monthly, or whatever works for you, to check in with each other. Ensure you are both on the same page when it comes to your relationship and your wellness needs and journey.
Lara felt that coming out of the closet as a gay woman was a walk in the park, in comparison to coming out of the closet with Lyme & Chronic illness.
Lyme & Self-Care
In a nutshell, coming out is ALL about Self-Care!
If you need some ideas on how to choose love over fear and implement your own self-care strategies, this FREE Self-Care Essentials Guide is a great way to start!
I’d love to support you to achieve greater health and wellness.
Sending love and light.